Mindset
Who Cares Wins
“Only one team is happy at the end of the year.“
– Mike Shanahan
I recently finished watching another season of The Quarterback on Netflix.
Why share this?
Because after two seasons following the journeys of five NFL quarterbacks (Kirk Cousins was featured in both), I was reminded yet again that success doesn’t happen by accident.
And more importantly—it’s not just about winning or stacking achievements. It’s about showing up, putting in the reps, and enjoying the process of growth.
What really struck me was how, inside these high-performance environments we so often admire, character is the real currency. The men who thrive are the ones who hold themselves to a higher standard—not just on the field, but in the way they treat people.
It was there in the way Joe Burrow could laugh and chat with referees, treating them with respect instead of disdain. It was in Kirk Cousins, coming home after learning he would no longer be the starting quarterback for the Falcons—an enormous blow for any veteran—and still finding the grace to play football with his young sons in the rec room. It was in Jared Goff, walking quietly through the woods with his wife, reflecting on what they’ve accomplished together.
You could see it in the way all of them showed genuine gratitude to their offensive linemen—not because it’s expected, but because they truly mean it.
It was there when Cousins returned to Minnesota, embraced former teammates and coaches, and reconnected with old friends, even after a loss. Or when Marcus Mariota, deep in the uncertainty of a career transition, strolled along a beach with his wife and baby, stopping to talk with a few women passing by. Or watching Patrick Mahomes treat everyone—teammates, coaches, staff—with steady kindness and class.
Different men. Different styles of play. Different paths to the top. Joe Burrow didn’t even have a great arm in high school. Jared Goff was drafted by the Rams, traded to the Lions, and chose to make the best of it, helping build belief in a long-struggling franchise. Some are master passers, others great decision-makers, others phenomenal athletes. All of them have some mix of these skills—or they wouldn’t be starting quarterbacks in the NFL.
But the common thread? Character. How you carry yourself. How you treat your family. How you embrace your friends. You can be a warrior and a leader, fight for every yard, and still be kind. There’s no need to belittle, berate, or boast. Let your work do the talking, and your character do the walking.
I think about Jared Goff, walking up the tunnel after losing a home playoff game, giving a lineman a pat on the back and saying, “Appreciate you, man,” only to hear, “I’m so sorry” in return. Or that same Goff, holding his wife’s hand during their baby’s ultrasound, talking about fatherhood and the new purpose it would bring.
I think about Kirk Cousins recalling something Mike Shanahan told him in his rookie year: “Only one team is happy at the end of the year.” In a sport where only one quarterback gets to hoist the Lombardi Trophy, failure is far more common than ultimate victory. And yet, Cousins, Goff, and the rest keep showing up, learning, exploring what’s possible, and staying grateful for the opportunity to do what they love in front of the fans who love them.
That’s what this show left me with—success is imperfect, unpredictable, and often hard to measure. But if you keep your character intact, treat people with respect, and live in gratitude, you’ve already won.
So I’ll leave you with this: How are you staying true to a character of kindness and consideration?
