Mindset
May 30, 2023 By Scott

How to Spoil Your Performance Culture Fast!

Having experienced all sorts of performance cultures in my life in business, in organizations, and even in families, I’ve taken note of the things that really destroy or inhibit the development of good culture.

Good culture is the foundation of success, without it, people wither like the leaves on a drought challenged plant.

Poor culture sucks the life out of the people in it, and good culture feeds their soul.

I recently posted on the subject of the ingredients of great culture (See my blog from April 10th) and I thought for a second that although those things sometimes seem logical, they aren’t always done well.

In the same way, some things that would seem counter-intuitive to the creation of good culture are done spectacularly well with very little effort, and incredibly detrimental results.

The accidental destruction or inhibition of culture occurs daily in environments throughout the world. People just aren’t always aware of some of the simple mistakes they make and how they slowly and insidiously spoil the roots of the cultural flower.

There are five culture spoilers I’ve observed time and time again, that with very simple efforts can be avoided and in so doing, eliminate the limits of cultural growth.

Expectations Unsaid

One of the biggest culture killers is murky, or unclear expectation.

Often people who run businesses or organizations got to this place of leadership because they were good at setting their own expectations, creating their own set of benchmarks. They intuitively know how to set and reach objectives, and in turn revise and re-establish these objectives, constantly recreating themselves, and their role in the process.

However, and this is the big conundrum, they aren’t always so good at imparting these skills upon those who work for them or that they mentor. They are good at doing, but not so good a teaching and coaching.

Not everyone is good at clearly establishing the expectations of their role in an organization, or feeling comfortable with being autonomous in defining their path.

The role of a good leader or a parent for that matter is to clearly establish and communicate the expectations they have for their team members or their children.

When things are left to assumption or interpretation based on personal perspective, then things get very murky, and people become listless, lost, or ineffective.

Culture becomes fractured.

Too Many Policies and Procedures

In opposition to a lack of expectations is the over-bearing establishment of policies and procedures. The reaction in some organizations to the need for clarity of expectations is to enact a whole bunch of policy and procedure items for people to follow so they can’t screw things up.

Granted, in some instances clarity of policy, and the procedures that must be followed to support such policy can be extremely effective and necessary. An example like the submission of time sensitive documentation to support payroll or contractual payment is one that comes to mind in a small or large business or organization.

But quite often policy and procedure becomes the way of leadership to off-load the responsibility of leadership. Leadership requires setting an example, and holding people accountable to expectations, expectations that have been clarified through conversation and ongoing communication.

You can’t P+P culture, culture is an intangible creation based on positive and exemplary leadership, period!

Judgement

Judgment kills mojo. It’s human nature to get mired in personal negative self-talk. We love to beat ourselves up, to judge ourselves, and our favourite deflective strategy to counterbalance negative self-talk is to shit on other people.

What better way of making yourself feel good than to tell yourself, and everyone else for that matter, that so and so is messing up, its so and so’s fault, they made the mistake, they don’t know what they are doing.

The worst example of this behaviour is when leadership blames or judges those around them for their mistakes or the company’s failures.

The bottom line is that if you are in charge of something, the buck stops at you. If someone you are leading makes a mistake, it’s your mistake. You have to own the mistakes because you chose to be a in a place of leadership and as such, you set the expectations (please see above!) and if those expectations aren’t met, you own the problem.

Judgment has no place in a culture of performance. Instead, we need empathy, mentorship, learning, room for failure, and opportunity to redeem.

Fear of Retribution

The dark side of judgement is retribution.

When we go beyond simple judgement and now we cut a swath out of those in error, we leave them feeling gutted. The pain of the mistake leaves a scar that challenges future decision-making, tempers risk taking, and limits opportunistic thought.

If I am worried about “what if” I will never make the best decision, I will make the safe decision, and the weight of possible retribution can be enough to stagnate any innovative practice.

Without innovative practice, risk taking, or opportunistic thought, environments become stagnant and unchallenging. People become bored, or simply lost in the day to day.

Fear of retribution destroys culture.

Bullshit

The last culture killer is pure unadulterated bullshit. When people, especially people in leadership roles tell lies, deceive, manipulate circumstances or information, blame circumstances, or simply deflect responsibility, culture becomes suffocated.

Great culture rises in a sea of certainty and honesty. It’s not easy to accept blame, to recognize and honestly bare your soul in any working environment. Vulnerability to the group is not easy. But if leadership exemplifies it, the consequences are positive growth and progress, and people become trusting.

Trust breads trust, and soon culture is net positive. When trust in in the black, culture can flourish and the people within that culture can reach maximum possibility and contribution.

A great deal of the cracks in the foundation of culture can be avoided by simple and effective leadership strategies, most of which seem logical, but are often forgotten and overlooked.

Don’t spoil culture by accident!

Hope this was valuable, if it was, feel free to share it.

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Mindset
May 22, 2023 By Scott

Building Your Playbook for Life

In the game of football, the playbook is the bible that guides all decision-making. What to do and when, who goes where, and the plan of action to beat the opposition.

A playbook in life is a thorough plan of action to achieve your intentions.

How do we build one?

Build a Future Vision

First up, we look down the line a few years and think about what we want our life to look like. Not how we are going to get there, but what we want life to be like, and more important, how we want it to feel!

This takes a little dreaming, a little faith in the process of visualizing something beyond your current state.

If you’re having trouble seeing what you want life to look like, then try the reverse approach, what don’t you want your life to look like?

What are you doing now, or living now that you don’t want to do or live?

If you can put a thumb on what you don’t like about your life, it will often help you clear a little bit of the muck off the windshield of life, and see a little more clearly.

Spend a little time on what you want life to feel and look like, as this becomes the end game of the playbook.

Now, most of the time, it’s best to do this in 2–3 year increments as it’s tough sometimes to see too far down the road.

Year One, Two, Three

So now that you have a vision of what you want life to look and feel like in three years, then you need to walk back and create a set of benchmarks for each year. What do you want life to look and feel like at the end of year two, and so on for year one so you are essentially progressing towards the finished product of year three.

Kind of like climbing a big mountain, you need to see the summit, see basecamp (now) and then see the rest of the camps along the way. What should the view look like at each of those new levels?

Again, it often helps to look at what you want to peel away as you progress, and not necessarily what you want to add. Sometimes the life we want just requires us to get rid of a lot of things, purge the negative energy dumps and time-wasters, and allow ourselves to thrive!

Adopt a Quarterly Review Concept

Once we have the view of each of our three years, then we can take year one and break it into quarters. What do we need to accomplish in each quarter to get to the year one “camp”?

We should be able to create a list of expectations each quarter that we need to accomplish to create the vision we have for the end of year one. We can look at all the things that need to be accomplished to get there, and then break them into chewable parts, each quarter has a specific set of attainable items.

Then, we take time at the end of each quarter to review our progress, acknowledge our achievements (WIns), understand where we under and over-accomplished, and then set the table for the next quarter. If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you might recognize this as Minding the Gap.

12-Week Quarter — 7 Day Week

Now we can take each quarter and look at what we have to do each week during a quarter, and finally, each day of each week.

Now all we need to do is wake up each day and execute the game plan from our playbook.

We don’t focus on anything other than what we are to accomplish today. Not what we did yesterday, not what we are doing tomorrow, what we need to do today.

Wins, Next Day Intentions, Morning Preparation, Keep the Vision

At day’s end, we look at what we accomplished, we count our wins, and we revise our intentions for tomorrow based on what we expected to accomplish, and what we got completed today.

Every morning we wake up, we review our intentions for the day, and we establish what we are going to accomplish in our morning preparation. Then we take some time each day to just sit in silence and connect with our long-term vision, where are we headed, what’s our objective.

Build a Schedule of Energy In

The key to this playbook concept is that we also create our weekly schedule.

We define the times we dedicate to executing the game plan we define the time we dedicate to personal physical culture, to family or friends, to brainstorming, to rest.

Everything is structured so that we can maximize the output during our execution time, but not feel like we are disconnected from the other things in our life we believe are priorities.

Simply Execute the Game Plan Daily

The key is consistency and simplicity. Every day you have to accomplish 2–3 steps on that climb to the next rest camp. Don’t worry about tomorrow. Don’t think about what happened yesterday, focus on what you need to accomplish today. And when life gets in the way and you miss a step or two, revise the plan, and set the course again the next day.

When you execute what’s in the playbook, it WILL come to fruition, it never fails.

How do you eat an elephant?

One bite at a time.

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Mindset
May 17, 2023 By Scott

Make Your Imagination Work FOR You

Imagination is a funny thing.

We spend so much of our time using our imagination to create stress in our lives, fill us with worry, and send us spiraling into sadness and in some instances, depression.

Look at us today, more than one-third (35.7%) of the adult population in America is considered to be obese.

Seriously, you read that right, one-third! More than 1 in 20 are considered to be extremely obese!

So many people today are addicted to pain medication, anti-depressants, alcohol, or other drugs all in an effort to mask or avoid the symptoms of stress, sadness, or depression.

Sugar has become the drug of choice for so many people, the sweet high of sugar keeping us as far from those negative feelings as possible.

Until you come down off the blood sugar high, then mega sadness hits again and the cycle continues. More chocolate!!

Seriously, we are so preoccupied with imagining disaster, imagining the “what if” scenario, imagining what our friends have, and what we don’t have, we are just so overwhelmed with all the negative possibilities.

We’ve even taken to not imagining, but simply voyeuristically observing everyone else’s social media highlight reels.

The Insta-life phenomenon is further killing our mojo!

We want what others have, but we can’t even imagine it, so we just long for their life, hoping somehow that if we wish, beg, and wait long enough, the payday will come.

In the meantime we are maxing out our credit cards, taking out credit lines to pay the credit cards, taking home mortgage loans to pay the credit lines. We are shopping ourselves into happiness!

We are living a pretend life of abundance, sad really.

So how do we change all of this darkness?

We start imagining the life we want to have.

Yep, that’s it.

How can I do that you say? that’s not an easy thing to do. I have bills, and responsibilities, and people to care for, and on and on!

But if you can imagine all this drama in your life, why can’t you imagine freedom and possibility?

Really, why not?

Our brains are hard-wired to lean towards the negative, so we need to jerk them out of that habit and apply some good old reverse psychology.

Wins

First thing we want to do is start to count our wins. Ya, you heard me, count your wins!

What does that mean you might be saying?

Well, each day you are going to take some time at the end of the day, preferably right before you go to bed, and you’re going to think of 1–3 things in the day that you did that could be considered positive.

It can be anything.

You got out of bed without hitting the snooze button

You ate a healthy lunch

You went for a 20-minute walk after dinner

You made it to the bank and got that deposit done

These are relatively simple things, but if you’re in a hole, sometimes you have to find the positive in the most malign of things.

If you are getting a little bolder perhaps you start counting wins like:

You completed a 45-minute HIIT workout

You finished a big project

You made an amazing meal for you or your family

You spent some amazing time with a loved one

You get the gist.

Counting your wins every night counter points your negative self-talk and finishes your day on a positive note. It tricks the subconscious into leaving the day on a positive rather than leaving the day on a negative.

It sets up the next day on a positive platform.

Once you gain some traction on your night-time practice it’s time to do some morning silence work.

Silence

Get up in the morning 15 minutes earlier. Get out of bed, find a comfortable place in the house where you can be alone, and either in a sitting or lying position settle down and close your eyes.

With your eyes closed focus on your breathing, in through the nose and out through the mouth.

Try to stay focused on your breathing, the sound of it, the feeling of it.

You may begin to talk to yourself, that’s normal. Each time you do, try to reconnect with your breathing.

Do this for just five minutes each day, every day for 30 days. If you miss a day or two get back on the horse and start again. Consistency is the key.

Once you’ve gotten good at five minutes, try to push it to 10–15 minutes.

Is this meditation?

In a sense yes, but at the end of the day, what we are doing is working on disconnecting from our thought stream, connecting with our breathing, and taking the time to be in silence so our mind can, in essence, rest!

It takes time to own it.

You will not be good at it immediately.

You might not be good at it for a very long time, but the action of making the effort creates time and space for you. Something we don’t do a very good job of these days.

We usually fill time and space with stuff! Sometimes its good not to fill it with anything!

Once we get used to silence in the morning, we can begin to fill that silence with our positive imagination.

Imagination

What is a place, a space, a feeling, or an image you can see that makes you feel good?

If there is an image you can link towards that makes you feel good spend some time connected to that image. If you can see a moving picture of sorts, allow it to flow, and connect with it as well.

This type of imagination time doesn’t have to last long, again maybe five minutes in the beginning. Consistency once more is the key. Keep coming back to it and keep allowing yourself to fill the space and time with your positive imagery.

Once you’ve become comfortable with this type of imagery, try to move to the next level.

Imagine your life

If you could be anything, do anything, or if you could change your circumstances some how that would allow you to flourish, what would that be? What would it look like?

Don’t get stuck on how you’re going to get there, just focus on what that would look and feel like.

Now try to link with that image or picture of your life on a daily basis. Integrate your “imagine your life” into your daily silence.

The simple combination of counting your wins and imagining your life on a daily basis will change your outlook measurably. You will truly begin to feel different.

You will truly begin to move forward when before you could only stay put.

You will begin to be inspired by your imagination. When your imagination begins to connect to you, there is no telling where it will go, but what I can tell you is it won’t be stuck in the darkness anymore.

There will be light where once there was dark. Your imagination will inspire you.

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Mindset
May 8, 2023 By Scott

How to Take Your Sleep Seriously

Air, water, food, sleep, and shelter are probably the most important basic elements of living on this earth.

To thrive on this earth, we need to optimize all of those elements in our life, and one, in particular, can give us plenty of benefits if we just spend a little more time considering “how” we do it.

Unfortunately, sleep is not taken very seriously by many of us, we pay it little mind and hope that our body and brain will deliver despite our lack of consideration.

Sleep is simply one of THE most important elements of recovery, and working at your sleep is just as important as working at your business, nutrition, or fitness.

Sleep! Yes, sleep.

Three elements are most important to consider

1 — The Quantity
2 — The Quality
3 — Our Sleep routine

When we are awake, our brains and bodies are being used, and in some instances abused.

Sleep is when our body recovers.

Consistency around these three areas can go a long way to improving your physical recovery.

Here are ten things you can do to really make a difference in the quality, quantity and consistency of your sleep routine.

Practicing them will most surely make a difference in the quality of your life, relationships, work and play!

1 — Take sleep seriously

First things first, take sleep seriously, please!

For the most part, it just ends up being something we use to bookend our day, slamming our head into the pillow at some hour of the night, hoping that things will work out, and we will see the sun shining again tomorrow.

By taking sleep seriously, and building a functional and flexible routine around it, you will optimize your awakened state. Sleep is the most important element of recovery, so optimizing it makes a real difference.

You don’t have to be perfect, or OCD about it, you just need to be thoughtful and considerate about it daily. Understanding its value, and aligning your behaviour around that understanding is key.

2 — Spend some money on a mattress, linens, and a pillow

This might be one of the easiest choices you could possibly make on spending your hard earned money. Yet it is a classic example of how little we pay mind to our sleep.

We sleep on old, worn out, mattresses. Hand me down mattresses. Dirty hotel mattresses. Couches and pull out couches!

Sometimes we go out and spend a bunch of money on a “good” mattress, but we don’t take the time to lie down on it first, to feel our level of comfort. Just because it is sold as the best mattress on earth does not mean it is the best mattress on earth for YOU! Test it out first!

Then, when you do get the “right” mattress, don’t go putting old crappy hand me down linens on it, or the ones you got on sale with a zero thread count!

Spend some money on a good mattress, good sheets, and a great pillow. You spend your money on a great car, or great restaurants, or whatever you perceive to be valuable to your life, please spend some money on your sleep!

3 — Breathe deeply

Just before you are going to shut things down for the night, try taking some deep breaths. Deep and mindful breathing affects the parasympathetic system and helps bring your heart rate down, relax you, and clears your body of carbon dioxide, replacing it with fresh oxygen.

Ten deep, mindful breaths, in through the nose and out through the mouth, 3–4 seconds in and 3–4 seconds out.

Try to get the breath into the whole abdominal cavity, feeling your stomach rise, but also feeling like the breath is coming out the back and sides of your trunk.

This type of breathing will help your brain and body prepare for sleep.

4 — Prepare to sleep

Speaking of preparing for sleep. What are you doing for the last hour or so before you go to sleep?

Pounding ot e-mail and texts? Checking social media? Watching TV or video? Eating? Drinking?

All of the above reduce your body and mind’s ability to shut down. These things amp up your neurological system, they are forms of stimulant.

We want to bring the system down. So about an hour before you plan to go to sleep, start shutting out all the drama.

Bring peace to your day.

Build a sleep routine, even when you travel, take some time to unwind at the end of the day and get into the right sleep space.

5 — Deal with sleep issues

If you are a snorer, chances are you are leaning towards a sleep issue, like sleep apnea. If you are waking up like a brick hit you in the head each day, the opposite of refreshed, then you may want to get your sleep quality checked out.

If you are sleeping the right amount, with the right quality, you should be waking refreshed, not exhausted.

Don’t wait until you get sick to finally have things checked out, there are a lot of very viable remedies on the market today for sleep apnea and snoring. No need to sleep alone anymore!

6 — Understand how much refreshes you

Experiment with the timing and length of time of your sleep and try to get a sense of the amount you need to feel refreshed. It won’t always be perfect, nothing ever is or should be, but the closer you are to a consistent amount of sleep, the better your body and mind will be at regulating.

Try logging your sleep quality and quantity, as well as your morning mood for a month or two to see how it varies. Play a little for short periods with different lengths and get a feeling for what works best for you, and then lean in and do your best to keep that amount consistent. It will pay dividends!

7 — Sleep in an optimal temperature

The temperature of your room and your sleep linens can make a huge difference on your sleep quality. Experiment with pajamas, linens, and room temperature to get the right combination so you sleep soundly and profoundly.

Again, use the daily tracking log to see how certain combinations work best, and then lock it down.

8 — Hydrate well

Dehydration is one of the hallmark causes of fatigue, and it can tacitly affect the quality and quantity of your sleep. Drink more water during the day than you think you should. Carry a one-liter bottle of water with you daily, and fill and empty it repeatedly throughout the day.

You may wake up having to pee in the night, but the quality of your sleep when you are asleep will be markedly improved.

9 — Monitor your consistency

As mentioned before, take the time to create a mechanism for monitoring your sleep. Something as simple as writing it into a simple spreadsheet on a day-to-day basis will show you trends in the quality and quantity of your sleep, and the link to trends in your daily mood and energy. The key here is consistency and simplicity. Use a method you can commit to doing and one that is easy to do, and you will soon see the effects of your sleep.

10 — Supplement with naps

If and when you are not getting enough sleep overnight (big job to do, newborn baby, etc.) don’t be afraid to take a nap.

A short, 20–30 minute nap during the day can make a huge difference in your overall productivity and your sleep quality at night. Longer naps, however, can negatively affect night sleep, or even reduce daytime effectiveness, so just watch out for how long you dip into afternoon sleep mode.

Take it home

Sleep is one of the most important elements of personal recovery and can make a huge difference in your quality of life and effectiveness. Take it seriously, and give it your full attention, you will see the difference.

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Mindset
May 1, 2023 By Scott

Life is a Journey Not a Destination

Are you living a life focused on the next objective, the next goal, or the next thing you wish to conquer?

What does it feel like when you get there?

What does it feel like when you don’t?

If the answer to the first question is something like, “Good, so what’s next?” or “Great for a while, but then it fades”.

or

The answer to the second question is, “I feel anxious, overwhelmed, frustrated”, or all the seriously negative emotions we could describe here.

If these are your answers, or something akin, your point of reference, your connection is with the OBJECT of your desire, the endpoint, the outcome.

Your point of reference is not WITH the process, and with connecting to yourself IN that process.

There are no objectives that you will attain, or reach that will satisfy you if the focus is on the object itself.

If the focus is on the process of your growth in reaching that objective, then you may not always be satisfied completely with what you achieve, that’s understandable.

But you will be fulfilled.If you’re connected to the process and your self-discovery in that process, you can re-set and re-focus your energies towards your objectives, or even revise those objectives.

But you will not be taken off course or beaten down by your inner voice because you didn’t achieve what you expected.

Challenge and growth Vs. Objects and expectations

I’ll take challenges and growth every time!How do I do this you say?

First, understand that every time you embark on an objective, or as I like to express it, an intention, your connection needs to be with the process of reaching towards it, not with it.

Yes, that’s what I said?!

Don’t keep your eyes on the prize.

We’re all doing it.

Day in and day out.

I want that job, and when I get it, I’ll be happy!

I want that promotion, and when I get it, all will be well!

I want that car, and when I get it, man am I going to be cool!

I want that partner, and when I get them, I am going to be whole!

I want that house and when I get it, I will be living the dream!

Inevitably, when we don’t reach those objectives, we get disappointed in ourselves, we beat ourselves up, and we start into a cycle of personal reflection that is not self-serving, but rather self-deprecating.

Maybe we even self-sabotage along the way! Because we don’t believe we can achieve the objective, so we just throw in the towel, give up, and go home!

Or

We achieve the objective, back slap ourselves for a day, yell and scream from the tallest building!

But nothing really changes.

Ya, maybe we can afford something we couldn’t before, or we are in a better position than before, but for some reason, we can’t find true enjoyment and fulfillment at the moment!

We look around with this empty feeling, and then we look for what to do next, and here starts the cycle again. Here……we…….go!

If we connect more with working towards our intentions, we stay focused on learning from each moment, consider our choices, understand our pathway, and revel in the daily process, and we will feel such a sense of fulfillment each day.

And that is the crux of the matter.

It is not about the endpoint, it is about each day, each step.

Process, not Perfection!

When we are connected to that, then each day IS fulfilling, even when it may be a step backward, because you learned something, and you felt something, and you explored yourself.

You grew!

Growth, learning, and evolving vs. Expectations, Disappointment, or Emptiness — You Choose!

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