Mindset
There’s Always Going to Be a Bigger Boat
“While money can’t buy happiness, it certainly lets you choose your own form of misery.” – Groucho Marx
One of the things I’ve realized as I’ve gotten older is that there is no point of arrival. You don’t get to get there. There is no there, there!
We’re convinced early on in life that making goals and achieving things, getting things, and acquiring things are what you do, and that somehow, when you get to the pinnacle of this process, you will have arrived.
But there will always be a bigger boat, a better car, a nicer house, a better job, etc.
We love to watch voyeuristically the crisis and controversy of the rich and famous. Shows like Dallas and Dynasty in their day, and now Succession and Billionaire are our opportunity to live vicariously through the characters.
And yet, would we want to live that life? The excentricities of wealth never seem to solve anyone’s problems; they seem to simply make them bigger.
Chasing the next thing is a never-ending race to nowhere. Always looking back at who’s chasing you, and always looking forward to the next thing, never being present in the now.
Should we have goals and objectives?
It’s important to want to explore what is possible for yourself no matter what the chosen medium. Just understand that the reward is to be found in the effort and self-exploration, not in the actualization.
Life isn’t a game you are trying to win. There is no winning formula or trophy. When we make it about the trophy, then we get caught up in winning another trophy.
It’s all simply about growing and exploring what you are capable of imagining and creating. And your imagination and creativity should never stop until the day you perish.
Size doesn’t matter, LOL.
What matters is that you expect to be restless and interested in something else. It’s normal to be dissatisfied with where you are now so that you dream of where you might want to be next, realizing that when you get there, you won’t appreciate being there, you’ll be looking elsewhere again.
It’s a normal human characteristic. It’s what caused us to explore the world we live in. It’s what inspired the great explorers. But as they all realized, once you get where you planned to go, there’s somewhere else to get to next.
Your satisfaction and fulfillment can’t come from the false prophecy of arrival, it can only come from the effort and experience in trying.
You’ll save yourself a lot of money, time, and frustration if you stop focusing on getting it, and start focusing on being in it.
There is no there, there.
