Mindset
Anthony Robbins, challenged by the constrained format of the TedTalk spoke for just over 20 minutes and described what we humans need quite succinctly.
In his words, there are six human needs.
Four of these needs are the needs of the personality, and two are the needs of the spirit. Put another way, one can likely infer that the needs of the personality are the needs of the ego.
The four needs of the personality are; certainty, uncertainty, significance, and connection.
Certainty is a quest for construct, a desire to know everything that will or could happen, control is the center of this person’s universe.
Uncertainty is the classic adrenaline junky, or the one addicted to drama. These are the rules breakers, non-conformists, and the classic chaotic artist.
Significance is the person drawn to the title, the ultimate position, the power, material wealth, possessions, and status. They are never satisfied with enough, because there is never enough.
Connection is the person who is in and out of romantic relationships, never being completely pinned down. Or the person who knows everyone, but no one knows them. They are obsessed with the connection, and not with the content of the connection.
Robbins describes all of these needs metaphorically as water buckets with a hole in the bottom. You can pour as much “significance” or “certainty” into the bucket, but it will never be full. The hole in the bottom makes it so.
Robbins goes on to infer that most of us are biased toward one or more of these needs as our focus of attention.
However, no matter how hard we try, no amount of these needs will bring fulfillment, no amount will seem satisfactory.
He describes the two other needs are the needs of the spirit.
This is where the rubber meets the road of fulfillment.
These needs are growth and contribution.
Your intention and attention to growth are the great secrets of success. Are you aware of how you are changing, are you creating and manifesting that change, or are you simply a passenger of change? Forced to accept the consequences of your actions or inactions versus the recognition of your creation.
The intentionality of growth and the self-reflection in its experience drives your sense of fulfillment.
We are all here to experience and grow, are we writing our own story, or is the story written for us?
Ultimately, growth and growth alone can not bring a complete sense of fulfillment. It’s growth within a community, organization, circle of influence, or family and your contribution to those who surround you that makes you whole.
We are nothing if we are alone.
The truth is, none of us can explore ourselves without the aid and assistance of others. The question is, are you cultivating those who surround you, or are they imposed upon you?
Do you define your tribe, or is it that which you have been prescribed?
How are you creating your circle of influence and how are you in turn contributing within it? Food for your thought.
