Creating a great culture is a lot easier than we think!

I’ve been around many organizational and corporate cultures in my career and I’ve seen all kinds.

Cultures that just plain suck, where people grind it out day after day, no thanks or sense of value, just a paycheck and occasional company holiday party.

Cultures where nothing gets done, and no one gives a crap about the work they do, the effort they put in, or the results of their mistakes.

Cultures where incredible things are being accomplished, but people are scared, depressed, sick, or even lost.

I’ve also seen places where people thrive. Where the People and the organization come together as one and actually create things, live fulfilling lives, and go home each day smiling.

What? Really?

Yes, they do exist! They exist all over the planet. Places where people work or give of themselves to organizations and corporations as though they are in a family.

They don’t feel like they are going to work every day, they feel like they are going to their lives each day. They are inspired and energized by the work or the environment.

No, this is not some sort of utopian civilization yet to exist on this planet, there are plenty of small and large businesses, and organizations of every sort where people live inspiring lives.

Why?

Because each of these places has approached the creation of culture in a manner that is awakening and inspiring, not the same old same old.

In observing so many performance cultures over my career, I’ve come to realize that there are some really valuable cultural ignition switches that anyone who wants to create an inspiring culture can put into practice.

Engage people with character before talent

A good friend of mine Hubert Marsolais runs three of the best restaurants in Montreal. In a town known by foodies as a metropolis for gastronomy, where your food and your service must shine if you want to stand out amongst the competition, Marsolais depends on the outstanding culture of his team to create the best ambiance and the best food day in day out.

How does he do it you may ask?

One of his founding principles is to hire character before talent. As Hubert says, “you can teach people how to do things, but you can’t teach character”.

The how, and the what of food preparation or service are important, but if the person delivering them just doesn’t care, it doesn’t matter how well imprinted or defined the script or recipe might be, the customer just won’t feel it or taste it.

If the customer doesn’t connect, chances are, they won’t return to spend their money on your food and your service, and you will soon be one of a myriad of restaurants that open and close in all the cities across the world yearly.

Marsolais has created not one, but three of the best restaurants in Montreal whose reputations have stood the test of time, each at the top of the charts for many years.

Character creates culture and culture supports character, they are mutually supportive, and in his humble opinion, the character is king!

Make room for opportunity

If you want your culture to thrive, you have to provide opportunity within the world you’ve created.

What do I mean by opportunity?

Your team must feel that they can grow, that they can serve their spirit, and they can rise up within the space. If they feel like they are limited, can’t contribute, or can’t rise beyond their current station, they will eventually tire of being a part of the team.

This doesn’t mean they have to be able to earn more money or have a fancy title. In fact, many businesses and organizations make the mistake of thinking that by just paying people more, or giving them the corner office, they will be happy, and in the end, these things are not what serve our souls.

To feel like you are contributing to the growth and development of the organization, that your contribution is of value, and that you can in turn grow within the organization is a must-have these days.

In a world where lateral and vertical movement is far more available, and people are just not afraid to go somewhere else to find fulfillment, the culture within your organizational space is a key element in securing their loyalty.

Give your people the chance to shine.

Make the ground rules simple and clear

Policies and procedures meant to make all things equal and honest within an organization simply hamstring culture.

People don’t flourish inside the mandated structure. If for every decision there are six steps, and three people to speak with, then time becomes ever-constraining. Function becomes defined by too many variables. People feel bogged down, and in the end, they stop moving forward.

They simply begin to exist within the structure instead of reaching, risking, and learning by trying.

Take the time to evaluate what your key definitive rules are, what are the un-breakables? Make them clear to everyone, and hold people accountable to them, but beyond that, let your people explore the possibilities. Let them make mistakes and learn from them.

A good friend of mine who has worked for 25 years in the pharmaceutical industry in sales told me once that the best boss she ever had, had one rule. “Do what you feel is right, but make damn sure you let me know what you did so I can back you up”.

Simple and clear, it says, “I trust you, but just make sure you don’t put me in a spot where I look stupid and we’ll both rise together”.

Rules should facilitate, not inhibit the process!

Structure and Flow

Speaking of rules!

The idea of structure in any system is to provide room and clarity for flow. Flow is the opportunity to be, think, create, and explore. Any organization or business cannot be successful without some structures or systems. This yin and yang between structure and flow are important to any businesses’ foundation for success.

The key to structure and flow is identifying a “flexible” system that allows those who are more flow-oriented to be fluid and unencumbered, and those who are more structure-oriented to have systematic anchors from which they may flourish.

It may even be necessary to have independent systems within the “zones” of an organization. As an example, structure-oriented areas of business like finance or engineering might need greater levels of structure, while areas of an organization that have a greater dependence on free-thinking like the design or artistic expression may need more room to flow.

That being said, no matter how flow-oriented a person might be, they will have some fundamental structures that center them when necessary, and no matter how structured someone might be, they will from time to time allow their minds to drift into a flow state where they may be creative.

Find a happy place for your people to flourish.

Lead by example

In any organization or family, those who are in charge or looked toward for direction or leadership must set an example. If you expect others to do things, don’t expect it to happen much if you don’t do it yourself.

Want people to be at your meetings on time? Start them on time!

Want people to submit expense reports? Submit yours!

Want people to take care of their health and well-being so they can be more productive? Then take care of your health and well-being.

Want people to be honest and accountable? Be honest and accountable yourself!

It would seem logical, but quite often those in leadership positions ask people to do things they aren’t willing to do themselves, and that’s when things get very murky.

Pride in the Jersey

Have you heard of the term resistance?

The sticky, gluey, friction-like surface of our mind that stops us from moving forward.

In some ways, it’s a better word for describing the manifestation of fear than using the word fear.

Why?

Because fear conjures up this sensitivity to possible harm, the danger of the moment, and in a lot of instances there really isn’t any harm or a danger present.

It’s more the perception of consequence that is stopping us.

What will people think of me?

How will I be judged?

How will I be ostracized?

Will I be alone?

What will I do if I don’t have “that” anymore? (insert job, car, house, boat, friend, partner, etc.)

Consequence and judgment are a constant circular conversation for most of us.

Get up in the morning and the brain starts chirping about how you don’t want to get up, you aren’t ready for the day, you don’t like waking up, and what’s so good about today!

Everyone has days like that, some have weeks like that, and some have lives like that. Resistance starts upon waking, and the glue begins to harden as the day progresses.

What do you mean you might be saying? I get a lot of stuff done, I’m busy with so many things, and I’m a worker bee!

Aha! That my friend is often resistant just as much as not doing anything is resistance.

Huh?!

Yep, doing things, lots of things, things that seemingly occupy your time, but insidiously erode your “productive” time are all forms of resistance.

What do I mean about productive time?

Real productive time is when what you are doing with your time aligns with what you intentionally wish to create in your life.

If you want to be an amazing writer, then you need to spend time thinking, writing, reading, listening, re-writing, resting, and basically dedicating significant amounts of your time to the art of producing the written word.

But it also means being tactical about it, and not doing it haphazardly, or sporadically, but dedicating real chunks of undisturbed time to being creative.

We need structure in our lives

The first thing we need to do to beat resistance is to create a structure that works for us. Structure is the opposite of flow, and to be able to flow, which is what we need to be able to do to harvest ideas and ultimately be creative, we need structure.

The word harvest infers that you took the time to plant and sew the seeds, you waited for the plants to grow to maturity, and now you are harvesting the bounty.

Just like a real harvest, to harvest ideas, there needs to be a short and long-term structure that creates fertile soil.

Behind every great artist or entrepreneur, the ones who build good bodies of work, not one-offs or occasional flurries, but real tangible and consistent work is a structure of creation. Even if that structure is created for them by a partner or assistant, or team, the structure must be there to support the consistent delivery and quality of expectation.

So anyone who is experiencing resistance needs to first create structures that allow them to be more cognizant of when they must be productive, and when they can rest or un-plug.

Instead what often happens is that without structure, time and space for creation become filled with “stuff”, quick texts, short conversations, long conversations, e-mails, trips to the fridge, trips to the coffee shop, glances at the TV, absorption in a YouTube video, sending Bitmoji’s!

The list goes on and on!

Start to become more aware of where you spend your time and energy

It’s tough to change anything or become better at anything unless you are aware of why you are not good at it in the first place!

So being better and owning your time and energy requires you to have some sense of where you spend these precious properties.

Assignment number one, take the time (haha!) to track your use of time each day. From the moment you wake up to the moment you go to bed each day for 3–5 days, write down at regular intervals during the day in a journal, spreadsheet, or just a simple white sheet of paper, everything you are doing throughout the day.

Don’t just reflect on the major “doing” moments like making and eating breakfast, or writing a memo, or taking the dog for a walk, but also reflect on the “stuff” you were doing to avoid being truly productive.

How long did you sit watching that YouTube video someone posted?

How many times did you check your phone for a new text or e-mail?

How long did you spend standing at someone’s desk or place of work chatting about nothing particularly thought-provoking (maybe you were even gossiping?).

Did you listen to an interesting podcast or audiobook on your way into work, or did you just listen to yourself crap on yourself, or someone else?

How many times did you go to a colleague and ask a question you could have investigated and solved yourself?

How often did you rearrange your desk, move papers, read the same message?

How many times did you tell yourself you couldn’t do something, or you don’t know how to do this or that?

All of this stuff is avoidance behavior.

It’s resistance.

You need to launch it from your life.

The more you are aware, the more you can begin to acknowledge it, and with acknowledgment comes accountability.

With accountability, we can begin to change things.

Hold yourself accountable

The best way to hold yourself accountable is to track things. To keep it simple, especially in the beginning, take some time at the end of the day each day to review and reflect on your day, write down where you used the time well, where you didn’t, and when you felt a sense that time spent was not productive and try to link to why.

Just do this for 3–4 weeks. Then look back at your notes and you’ll start to see trends. Trends you can start to address with intervention. You’ll also just simply become more aware of what you are doing. Awareness, like listening, is a skill we all need to learn. Awareness is the first power in change.

Now start using that same tracker to hold yourself accountable each night to doing better each day. Not being perfect but being better. You’ll soon find yourself looking back at the person you once were with that feeling of “How did I waste so much time?”

Understand your true intentions

Some people get stuck on purpose. What is my purpose, who am I, what am I supposed to accomplish on this earth? These can be overwhelming thoughts and conversations for many people.

If you are aware of your purpose, then this will resonate just that much more, but if not, no worries. The key here is that whatever you are doing each day, use the 80/20 rule. 80 percent of your day should be spent doing things that are directly contributing to building the life you want to have.

Oh boy, that’s a big thought. The life I want to have, what is that?

If you’re a big visionary thinker, then that might be a big vision, but if you aren’t, it might just simply be something that is one increment better than the life you have right now.

Ask yourself a simple question.

If I could change one thing in my life that would create a greater sense of fulfillment in me, what would it be?

Whatever the answer to that question, 80% of your time and energy on a daily basis should constructively connect to that aspiration.

If it’s getting a better job, or opening a business, or being a better parent, then how are you constructing your day so you can achieve that?

That doesn’t mean that if you want to be a better parent, you have to quit your job and stay home, it means that the way you construct your workday, what you do with your time when you get home, how you deport yourself when you are with your children, all of these things become far more important and focused. 

You become aware of how you spend your time and energy moving towards this goal.

You don’t keep looking at your phone when you are with your children? You don’t stare mindlessly at the TV while your child stares mindlessly at their tablet?

You become laser-focused on how you connect with your children.

The same is said for whatever key item you’ve chosen to go after, the one that will make the ultimate difference in your sense of fulfillment. Everyone is different.

Be comfortable in your discomfort

The changes you will need to make will at times feel uncomfortable. You may not like leaving your phone off, or in another room. You may not like staying at your desk and focusing on your work, it may feel strange to immerse yourself in the silence between you and your child. Discomfort is part of the change, it’s part of over-reaching, it’s part of achieving a better you.

Comfort is easy, comfort is warm and cozy. Wash in the discomfort, it is the cleanser of resistance.

If we want to live a more fulfilling and intentional life, we need to recognize the resistance that keeps us stuck in the mud, and eliminate the habits that feed the animal!

Perhaps, if you’re like most people, you often hear things like “you gotta hustle and grind” if you want to be successful.  

On the other hand, you might have heard people talking about the concept of life balance, the idea of ideal fulfillment, or the search for eternal happiness.

 The truth is, nothing is permanent.  Life ebbs and flows.

 There are good days and bad, empowering moments and difficult moments, times to hustle, and times to recover.

 If you live life with your foot on the gas pedal full time, you will at some point blow the engine, and that will express itself as burnout, depression, sickness, injury, or relationship issues. All of these things are symptoms of too much, too often, with no recuperation.

 No matter if it’s about how you work, how you workout, or how you socialize, it’s important for you to create an approach that actually allows you to achieve and recover.

A conceptual model for this approach I’ve titled “The Green, Yellow, Red Zone Strategy”.

 You can think of the Red Zone as going over the top, overreaching, going beyond your means, taking on more than you believe you can handle or feels right. 

Fundamentally, without overreaching, you just won’t grow.

 This is a fact of the physical, mental, emotional, and psychological spheres of our lives. Over-reaching stimulates or demands adaptation, your body, your brain, your physiology respond to increased stress, whatever that stress may be, by accommodating to it, building more capacity to handle that stress so that the next time you encounter such intensity you are ready and no longer challenged by that same level of stress.

 This is how we grow and get better at anything.

 Want to learn how to ride a bike? 

You have to lose your balance, wobble, fall a few times, catch yourself, all in an effort to accommodate and adapt. Slowly but surely your body recognizes when to zig when to zag, and voila, you are riding a bike. 

But, that then becomes pretty easy, so if you want to take it to another level, be able to handle, say some single-track mountain biking, well you need to try that now, and start all over with the wobbling, stepping off, crashing, or going completely ass over tea kettle!

 You want to run a business, make it successful?

 Red zone work means long days, big days of work, trying things, making mistakes, trying risky approaches, maybe even doing things people say you shouldn’t do, just because you have this “feeling”. In short, no red zone, no learning, no overreaching, no business. You will not succeed.

 But here’s where the shift in consciousness has to occur.  There are two other zones you need to recognize and live in from time to time so that all that accommodation and adaptation can take place.

 If you ride that mountain bike and you don’t pause to let your body absorb what it’s just learned, for a minute, for an hour, for a day, maybe even for several weeks, if you just keep trying and trying and trying, your body will either break, or you will cease to absorb the stimulus. 

You won’t get better, you might even get worse!

 Maybe you run a trail a little less difficult, one you are familiar with, or one you can manage well to negotiate, and in so doing your body starts to incorporate the adaptations. You start to manoeuver over and through things with just a little more confidence, you feel a sense of accomplishment and your body starts to go from that sympathetic flight or fight response you feel whenever you are on the edge, to a state of greater calm, one where you feel like you have to be on your game, but not on TOP of your game!

 This is Yellow Zone work. It’s still challenging, it still requires focus and intentional connection, but it isn’t requiring absolute and complete commitment every moment. This is the sweet spot of adaptation and regulation. The zone where you get to show off a bit, demonstrate that you know what you are doing, and do it really well. Gain confidence in your ability, demonstrate an ability to be in the game!

 You need to effectively allow yourself to live in this zone more frequently than you do. Seemingly these days, you are either all on, in the red zone almost constantly, or you are in the green zone trying to recover but doing a crappy job of it because you are too tired to actually engage in the green zone work.

 Yes, I said it, green zone work.

 Green Zone is the real recovery zone. Where you give yourself permission to just absorb life, tune in to yourself, be alone, sleep, read a book just for the pure escape of it, go for a walk, and think about……..nothing!

If you’re like most you likely pay limited mind to really resting. You are in the red zone all day, then you hit a self-imposed zone I call the brown zone. That’s the exhaustion zone. That’s the zone where we stare at the TV for an hour and forget what we watched. 

That’s the zone where you sit beside your loved one and pretend you are spending time together.

That’s the zone where you eat a pizza and chase it with a bowl of double fudge chocolate ice cream.

That’s the zone where you drink five glasses of wine and only realize when the bottle is empty! 

That’s the zone where your head hits the pillow with deep exhaustion, but seconds later won’t let you sleep because your brain won’t stop thinking shitty thoughts!

 The Brown Zone is the shit zone and it’s not something we create, it’s something we accept.

Brown zone is like drinking brown water, it isn’t very healthy!

Red zone, brown zone, red zone, brown zone, and thus the days flow on and on until we hit a wall.

 Heart attack!

 Loss of a loved one!

 Kids that misbehave!

 Divorce!

 Business fails!

 Lose all your money!

 And the list goes on.

 How do you build a Red, Yellow, Green Zone life?

 Consciously and consistently understanding what each one looks like, learning what they feel like, living in each one intentionally.

 The first thing you need to do is evaluate each day, consider what you do each day, apply a form of intensity monitor on each thing you do, recognize the redness of your actions.

Start learning what is truly green for you, intentionally engage in green lifestyle choices. Naps, meditation, reading, deep conversations, walks with no distraction, nutrition with impact. Begin to learn about these things.

 In the coming weeks, I will be writing more about the red, yellow, and green zone lifestyle, and how to do it right. Come back and visit, and we will grow together.

 No more running in the red, and flopping into the brown.

 Live life with intention, live it in the red, live it in the yellow and live it in the green!

 Own it!

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I saw this post on the internet recently.  I thought it was a poignant share of the realizations of one of history’s great creatives.

As a man myself, turning 60 at the end of this year, the reflections and realizations of a lifetime are real.  When you reach this age, you know that you have less time on this earth than you’ve spent.

If you’re really lucky, you might get 40% of what you’ve experienced, and this realization is sobering, and thought provoking at the same time.

Charlie Chaplin is 26 in this photo.

He read this poem on April 16, 1959, on the occasion of his 70th birthday. 

I hope you find value in its words.

When I started loving myself

I understood that emotional pain and grief are signals warning me that I was living against my own truth.

Today, I know it’s called Authenticity.

When I started loving myself

I understood how much I could offend someone by trying to impose my desires on them knowing that it was not the right time and that person was not ready for it. And even when that person was none other than myself.

Today, I know it’s called Respect.

When I started loving myself

I stopped dreaming of another life and I could see that everything around me was inviting me to grow.

Today, I know it’s called Maturity.

When I started loving myself

I understood that I was always in the right place at the right time.

And I understood that everything that is happening is right.

From then on, I experienced deep peace.

Today I know it’s called Self-Confidence.

When I started loving myself

I rejected everything that was not healthy for me:

food, people, things, situations, anything that pulled me down and pulled me away from myself.

At first, I called it “healthy selfishness”, but today, I know it’s called Self-Love.

When I started loving myself

I stopped always wanting to be right,

and from then on I was less mistaken.

Today I understand that this is called Humility.

When I started loving myself

I stopped living in the past and worrying about my future.

Now I focus on my present, where everything takes place. 

So I live each day to the full and I call it Appeasement.

When I started loving myself

I recognized that my mind could make me sick.

I had therefore called for help from the forces of the heart, which my spirit welcomed as a valuable partner.

Today I call this connection Wisdom of the Heart.

We need not fear arguments, conflicts, and problems with ourselves and with others since even the stars sometimes collide and create new worlds.

Today I know, it’s called Life.

– Charlie Chaplin, a poem written ✍️ by Kim McMillen

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James Clear has written a book called Atomic Habits in which he describes four stages of habit formation and how they can be applied in coaching others to create new, more serving habits.

Even if you are not a coach, some of the thoughts in this blog will surely serve you in questioning the habits that serve, and the ones that don’t.

The four stages of habit formation are:

A Cue: The first stage of habit formation is the cue, which is a trigger that initiates the behavior. The cue could be something like a time of day, a particular location, a specific feeling, or an action that precedes the habit. In coaching, you can help individuals identify their cues and become aware of what triggers their current habits.

The Craving: The second stage of habit formation is craving, which is the motivational force behind the behavior. The craving is what drives the individual to act on the habit. In coaching, you can help individuals understand why they have a particular craving and what they hope to gain from the habit.

The Response: The third stage of habit formation is the response, which is the actual behavior or action that the individual takes in response to the cue and craving. In coaching, you can help individuals choose an appropriate response to their cues and cravings that aligns with their values and goals.

The Reward: The fourth and final stage of habit formation is the reward, which is the outcome or benefit that the individual receives from the behavior. The reward reinforces the habit and makes it more likely that the individual will repeat it in the future. In coaching, you can help individuals identify the rewards they receive from their current habits and help them create new, more serving rewards for their desired habits.

By understanding these four stages of habit formation, coaches can help their clients create new, more serving habits by identifying and addressing each stage, and so can you!

Coaches can help individuals identify their cues and cravings, choose an appropriate response, and create new, more serving rewards that will help reinforce the desired behavior. 

Additionally, coaches can help individuals develop strategies to overcome obstacles and maintain their new habits over time.

Here are some questions you can use to help discover what is holding your client’s or yourself back:

Cue: 

·  What triggers your current habit?

·  When do you find yourself engaging in the habit?

·  Are there any patterns or specific times when you tend to engage in the habit?

·  What emotions or thoughts precede the habit?

Craving:

·  What do you hope to gain from the habit?

·  How does the habit make you feel in the moment?

·  What emotions or thoughts are associated with the habit?

·  Is there a deeper need or desire that the habit is fulfilling?

Response:

·  What actions do you take in response to the cue and craving?

·  Are there any specific barriers or obstacles that prevent you from engaging in the desired behavior?

·  What specific steps can you take to create a more serving response to the cue and craving?

Reward:

·  What benefits do you currently receive from the habit?

·  Are there any negative consequences of the habit?

·  How can you create new, more serving rewards that align with your values and goals?

In addition to these questions, it can be helpful to explore your client’s beliefs and values around the habit, as well as any past experiences or traumas that may be contributing to the habit. By understanding your client’s motivations and barriers at each stage of habit change, you can better tailor your coaching to their individual needs and help them achieve lasting behavior change.

Further to his groundbreaking book, James Clear speaks publicly about the four stages using different words to describe the stages. 

He describes the stages in his presentation that you can find on YouTube (https://youtu.be/mNeXuCYiE0U) as;

1) Noticing

2) Wanting

3) Doing

4) Liking

While James Clear’s descriptions of the four stages of habit formation may use different words, they are still referring to the same underlying concepts as the previous four stages I mentioned earlier. I don’t see these descriptions as contrary positions, but rather as complementary ways of framing the same process.

For example, “Noticing” in Clear’s framework is analogous to “Cue” in the earlier framework. Both refer to the trigger or prompt that initiates the behavior. “Wanting” is similar to “Craving,” referring to the motivational force behind the behavior. “Doing” is similar to “Response,” referring to the actual behavior or action taken in response to the cue and craving. Finally, “Liking” is similar to “Reward,” referring to the outcome or benefit that the individual receives from the behavior.

By using different language to describe the four stages, Clear may be emphasizing different aspects of the habit formation process or appealing to a different audience. However, the underlying concepts are still the same, and both frameworks can be used effectively to help individuals create new, more serving habits.

Resistance is a concept introduced by Steven Pressfield in his book “The War of Art,” which refers to the inner force that holds us back from pursuing our goals and making positive changes in our lives. In my opinion, resistance can be a major obstacle to habit change or formation.

When we try to create new habits or break old ones, we often encounter resistance in the form of self-doubt, fear, procrastination, or other negative thoughts and emotions. This resistance can make it difficult to act and can cause us to revert back to our old habits, even if we know that they are not serving us.

In order to overcome resistance and create new, more serving habits, we need to develop strategies to manage our thoughts and emotions and take consistent action toward our goals. This might include setting specific goals, creating a plan of action, seeking support from others, and practicing self-compassion and self-care.

Additionally, it can be helpful to reframe our mindset around habit change and view it as a process of growth and self-improvement, rather than a task to be completed. 

By focusing on the positive benefits of our desired habits and reminding ourselves of our larger purpose and values, we can stay motivated and committed to our new habits, even in the face of resistance.

Overall, I believe that resistance is a natural and inevitable part of the habit change process, and learning to manage it effectively is crucial to creating lasting behavior change.

There are several symptoms or expressions of resistance that you may notice in yourself or your clients when trying to create new habits or make positive changes in your life. Here are some common signs of resistance to look out for:

• Procrastination: Putting off tasks or actions that are necessary to create the desired habit.

• Rationalization: Making excuses or justifying why it’s not the right time to create a new habit.

• Self-doubt: Feeling unsure of your ability to create a new habit or achieve your goals.

• Fear: Being afraid of failure or success or feeling anxious about the changes that creating the new habit might bring.

• Distraction: Getting easily sidetracked or allowing other tasks or activities to take priority over creating the new habit.

• Negativity: Focusing on the potential obstacles or challenges of creating the new habit rather than the benefits.

 It’s important to note that experiencing resistance is a normal part of the habit change process, and it doesn’t necessarily mean that you or your client is doing something wrong. 

However, it’s important to be aware of these symptoms and to develop strategies to overcome them in order to make lasting changes.

When you or your client notice these symptoms of resistance, it can be helpful to take a step back and re-evaluate the underlying motivations and goals behind the desired habit. 

It may also be helpful to seek support from others, practice self-care and self-compassion, and break down the habit-creation process into smaller, more manageable steps. 

By being aware of the symptoms of resistance and developing strategies to manage them, you and your clients can stay on track and create lasting, positive changes in your lives.

Good luck with habit change!